To want to be friends with people is a good thing.

It means you get to know them.

It means you get access to their personhood, their inner-self, their family, their closest friends.

If through life trials you abuse that intimacy, some of them will do the hard work and walk away.

Some of the abuse, will come from you.

And, some of the abuse, will come through you sitting in on gossips.

That is some things are from you.

And, others through you.

Through You, that is the things your enable through listening; active passivity.

In truth, you know why.

Your worth of them was no longer closeted.